DEAR GAYLA: Since it feels as if we never leave our computers these late-winter days, maybe we could celebrate on Skype together? Our blog anniversaries, I mean—mine’s March 5 (today!), marking five whole years online, and if I’m counting right you’re at like age 13. How can that be?
about ‘dear gayla’
DEAR GAYLA is how an occasional series of “out-loud” letters between myself and Gayla Trail, the creator of You Grow Girl [dot] com, begins; this is the second installment of our correspondence. Here’s Gayla’s newest letter (which I hadn’t read before I typed that, nor vice versa). My previous letter is here.
Come to think of it, the number 5 must be numerologically significant for me right now (maybe I should play the Lotto, or consult a medium?). Or at least 5’s are very in-my-face: I’ve been a garden writer for 25 years, and it was 15 years ago that “A Way to Garden,” my first garden book, was published, the one I named the website for.
I don’t know if I ever told you why I started the A Way to Garden website, but frankly it was partly to prevent a panic-attack, or at least total embarrassment–because I didn’t really have a Plan A, let alone a Plan B at the end of 2007, when I walked away from my longtime “successful” career in the city for a solo rural life. Though I wasn’t worried, people kept asking me what I “planned to do up there.”
Eventually, it made me feel self-conscious, as in: Was I making a horrible mistake? (I hadn’t cooked up ideas for the two books that would eventually be my main “job” so far in this new life, so things were sketchy at first.) I think that saying, “I’m starting a garden website” sounded more reassuring than, “I don’t know,” both to myself and to the many skeptics, and so A Way to Garden [dot] com was born. Happy anniversary, dear blog, now stuffed with almost 1,200 stories and 45,000 comments–the questions and shared wisdom of a whole community of plant-mad friends, including you, I’d never have “met” otherwise.
GOING BACK to the “5’s” thing, Gayla, on December 25—Christmas!—my sister gave me a garden vintage find to end all garden vintage finds. I know that’s saying a lot, since you are the Queen of Junking and have scored some beauties (like that botanical display cabinet for $15 last year, and your endless stream of pots and pans and kettles and other containers-in-the-rough) but it’s a pretty great thing.
It was shared with my sister by a friend named Evelyn, who asked that she in turn share it with me. (I still can’t believe Evelyn, or my sister, parted with it.) I wrote to Evelyn afterward, to ask what in the world was the history of “A Treasure Box for My Garden” (dated 1932-33). It’s like a recipe box of cards, but filled with gardening tips and plants divided up by subjects such as “plant feeding” or annuals, instead of meatloaf or chicken ideas filed under entrees.
“I am delighted that you liked the box of gardening tips,” she wrote back. “I received it from the elderly woman that I bought a house from in Albany, New York. Lucinda was an amazing character and wonderful gardener. Her fiddler ferns were easily 7 feet tall. I would suspect that she got the box when it was first issued. When she moved, she left it for me.”
Gayla, each card is like a whole gardening adventure. On Card 1 (and every one’s numbered; there are 106 in all) you get the “Introduction,” with what are called the “Elementary Points.” (Don’t worry, I won’t quiz you on them.)
Since it’s my current lucky number, I guess I should see what it says on Card 5, huh? One second, let me grab it…OK, it’s part of the “Botanical Names Index,” the card that includes the letter “E” as in Euphorbia, one of your favorite plants and mine.
Each card has this tiny copyright line on the bottom edge, saying: “Data compiled and verified by Mrs. Elizabeth Peterson, who is executive secy. of Horticultural Society of New York.” Both sides of each card are positively covered in information, ranging from all the state flowers or dates for Arbor Day in each one, to recommended rose varieties, and how to plant bulbs or care for your lawn—you name it. An encyclopedia, all in a little cardboard box.
THE NAME “Vigoro” is part of a number of the recommendations—as in how much of that brand of fertilizer to use on your grass or roses–so I guess this quaint little box was a premium with purchase. You and I with our chemical-averse garden ways would not have earned a treasure box at Winer’s Hardware Store in Quincy, Massachusetts, where this one originated, Gayla!
Mrs. Peterson’s advice is nevertheless charming 80 years hence, and I even agree with some of it (minus the fertilizer, I mean). Some 1933 pearls:
- “The use of botanical terms is a good habit to acquire as it will clarify much that is heard in visiting gardens and flower shows.”
- “Except perhaps in strictly crowded neighborhoods, it should be possible to spare a few feet for a compost heap.”
- “The rock garden represents the home owner’s effort to duplicate in his own door yard, the informal beauties of nature’s domain.”
And this great tidbit:
- “There is hardly any rule or theory in plant life that cannot be contradicted and challenged according the the experience of the individual gardener.”
By the way, Gayla, there are some blank cards provided in the box for those who wish to color outside the lines a bit and write their own rules. (Sounds good to me.) As proper and ladylike as a lot of the instructions sound, we’re actually allowed to improvise and invent, as long as we try to learn from our failed experiments:
“Make your mistakes here and there,” says Mrs. Peterson, “use blank cards for your own record, and go ahead.”
Shall we go ahead, then, for another 5 years, or perhaps another 13? I suppose that A Way to Garden [dot] com is a giant virtual treasure box for my garden, as You Grow Girl is for yours.
Love to you and Davin and Molly, as ever. Meow, meow (and: “Got any kibble to spare? I could use a little nosh right now”) from you-know-who, He Who Shall Not Be Satisfied.