DEAR GAYLA: Since it feels as if we never leave our computers these late-winter days, maybe we could celebrate on Skype together? Our blog anniversaries, I mean—mine’s March 5 (today!), marking five whole years online, and if I’m counting right you’re at like age 13. How can that be?
about ‘dear gayla’
DEAR GAYLA is how an occasional series of “out-loud” letters between myself and Gayla Trail, the creator of You Grow Girl [dot] com, begins; this is the second installment of our correspondence. Here’s Gayla’s newest letter (which I hadn’t read before I typed that, nor vice versa). My previous letter is here.
Come to think of it, the number 5 must be numerologically significant for me right now (maybe I should play the Lotto, or consult a medium?). Or at least 5’s are very in-my-face: I’ve been a garden writer for 25 years, and it was 15 years ago that “A Way to Garden,” my first garden book, was published, the one I named the website for.
I don’t know if I ever told you why I started the A Way to Garden website, but frankly it was partly to prevent a panic-attack, or at least total embarrassment–because I didn’t really have a Plan A, let alone a Plan B at the end of 2007, when I walked away from my longtime “successful” career in the city for a solo rural life. Though I wasn’t worried, people kept asking me what I “planned to do up there.”
Eventually, it made me feel self-conscious, as in: Was I making a horrible mistake? (I hadn’t cooked up ideas for the two books that would eventually be my main “job” so far in this new life, so things were sketchy at first.) I think that saying, “I’m starting a garden website” sounded more reassuring than, “I don’t know,” both to myself and to the many skeptics, and so A Way to Garden [dot] com was born. Happy anniversary, dear blog, now stuffed with almost 1,200 stories and 45,000 comments–the questions and shared wisdom of a whole community of plant-mad friends, including you, I’d never have “met” otherwise.
GOING BACK to the “5’s” thing, Gayla, on December 25—Christmas!—my sister gave me a garden vintage find to end all garden vintage finds. I know that’s saying a lot, since you are the Queen of Junking and have scored some beauties (like that botanical display cabinet for $15 last year, and your endless stream of pots and pans and kettles and other containers-in-the-rough) but it’s a pretty great thing.
It was shared with my sister by a friend named Evelyn, who asked that she in turn share it with me. (I still can’t believe Evelyn, or my sister, parted with it.) I wrote to Evelyn afterward, to ask what in the world was the history of “A Treasure Box for My Garden” (dated 1932-33). It’s like a recipe box of cards, but filled with gardening tips and plants divided up by subjects such as “plant feeding” or annuals, instead of meatloaf or chicken ideas filed under entrees.
“I am delighted that you liked the box of gardening tips,” she wrote back. “I received it from the elderly woman that I bought a house from in Albany, New York. Lucinda was an amazing character and wonderful gardener. Her fiddler ferns were easily 7 feet tall. I would suspect that she got the box when it was first issued. When she moved, she left it for me.”
Gayla, each card is like a whole gardening adventure. On Card 1 (and every one’s numbered; there are 106 in all) you get the “Introduction,” with what are called the “Elementary Points.” (Don’t worry, I won’t quiz you on them.)
Since it’s my current lucky number, I guess I should see what it says on Card 5, huh? One second, let me grab it…OK, it’s part of the “Botanical Names Index,” the card that includes the letter “E” as in Euphorbia, one of your favorite plants and mine.
Each card has this tiny copyright line on the bottom edge, saying: “Data compiled and verified by Mrs. Elizabeth Peterson, who is executive secy. of Horticultural Society of New York.” Both sides of each card are positively covered in information, ranging from all the state flowers or dates for Arbor Day in each one, to recommended rose varieties, and how to plant bulbs or care for your lawn—you name it. An encyclopedia, all in a little cardboard box.
THE NAME “Vigoro” is part of a number of the recommendations—as in how much of that brand of fertilizer to use on your grass or roses–so I guess this quaint little box was a premium with purchase. You and I with our chemical-averse garden ways would not have earned a treasure box at Winer’s Hardware Store in Quincy, Massachusetts, where this one originated, Gayla!
Mrs. Peterson’s advice is nevertheless charming 80 years hence, and I even agree with some of it (minus the fertilizer, I mean). Some 1933 pearls:
- “The use of botanical terms is a good habit to acquire as it will clarify much that is heard in visiting gardens and flower shows.”
- “Except perhaps in strictly crowded neighborhoods, it should be possible to spare a few feet for a compost heap.”
- “The rock garden represents the home owner’s effort to duplicate in his own door yard, the informal beauties of nature’s domain.”
And this great tidbit:
- “There is hardly any rule or theory in plant life that cannot be contradicted and challenged according the the experience of the individual gardener.”
By the way, Gayla, there are some blank cards provided in the box for those who wish to color outside the lines a bit and write their own rules. (Sounds good to me.) As proper and ladylike as a lot of the instructions sound, we’re actually allowed to improvise and invent, as long as we try to learn from our failed experiments:
“Make your mistakes here and there,” says Mrs. Peterson, “use blank cards for your own record, and go ahead.”
Shall we go ahead, then, for another 5 years, or perhaps another 13? I suppose that A Way to Garden [dot] com is a giant virtual treasure box for my garden, as You Grow Girl is for yours.
Love to you and Davin and Molly, as ever. Meow, meow (and: “Got any kibble to spare? I could use a little nosh right now”) from you-know-who, He Who Shall Not Be Satisfied.
I love it! Love the artwork, too. That last quote about the experience of the individual gardener is great. So true. I recently found a similar premium giveaway item but it’s a recipe box rather than a garden box. It’s not quite as interesting.
Happy 5, 15, and 25!
Wonderful! There is a small garden near my house that contains a plaque stating that it’s a duplicate of a garden from St.. Louis, circa 1942. I love to stand and think about that, so I’m sure a box of gardening history like that would just eat up hours!
p.s. We share a blog anniversary. :)
These are great letters to eachother… and what a great find!
I scour yard/estate sales and antique shops for interesting gardening finds… maybe I can find my own little treasure box!
“He Who Shall Not Be Satisfied”. Your Jack sounds like quite the kitty! ♥
I have a very old wooden seed box (looks oaken) that I store trinkets in-1904 I believe. They used to ship seeds in these. Packaging sure has changed.
A true friendship of minds and gardening passion in old fashioned pen-pal style :). I love this series of letters to friends and the shared excitement of finding something as precious as this garden treasure box. Who but a fellow gardener would care about this amazing find! We gardeners all envy you ;). Congratulations on 5 years! If you love your subject I don’t think years matter…it’s whether or not your gardening muses keep communicating and yours are well and truly here to stay by the look/sound of it :). 13 years is an amazing feat and Gayla deserves true kudos for her efforts. Someone should write a newspaper article about it because she is a doyenne of garden net communication. I can’t wait to read Gayla’s reply. You are both amazing wordsmith’s with a wonderful palpable passion for plants that pours from the page. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful friendship :)
oh, how wonderful!
And Happy Anniversary to you both!!
Lovely reflections. I find that Plan A is generally overrated, so glad this plan worked out for your.
“Make your mistakes here and there” – that’s a gem! Happy Anniversary from a very appreciative reader.
Congratulations! May you have as many anniversaries as you wish. What a wonderful gift that box was. I love it that she did not expect you to be perfect, but to “make mistakes here and there”.
I love it!
I think you win the prize for the best vintage garden find EVER. I am a flea-market-garage-sale-antique-store fanatic and I have never seen anything like that before. What a wonderful “treasure”.
Congratulations to you and Gayla. Thanks for sharing your garden knowledge and journeys with us!
Thanks, Theresa — and can you believe someone actually handed it down to me? I have it here on my desk, as I have since Christmas, keeping me company.
Happy anniversary and my thoughts today are with Martha who has mentored the world teaching all of us much about LIVING. My Dad would say “March is time of Summer and Winter fighting it out” as we got tired of long winters in Dakota. Much to be learned from times long past and I can’t forget VIGORO that Mother wanted after reading about it in one of the very few articles available but didn’t spend money when she could make manure tea. Gonna go read Gayla.
Love this post, Margaret. Happy anniversary! And many more!
Love yhour letters to each other! Keep them up. Also,love both blogs
Happy Anniversary! Congratulations. Here’s to the next 5. :)
I find myself wishing that you could scan each card into a file that we could read. What a great find and a generous gift from your sister.
I echo the above sentiment from Joan. Always on the lookout for rare finds at flea markets and yard sales, I have never seen anything like it. That little box is a treasure for sure.
Congratulations Margaret! Feel so priviledged to be able to read your correspondence with Gayla.Just gave a “high five” to my spirit for guiding me to your “And I Shall Have…..”book and subsequently to this magical place that is your blog. Happy Happy Anniversary!!!!!! Daisy.
What a great treasure (you,you,you) Happy 5th Anniversary and many more.
What a wonderful treasure! I have collected a couple of old books, one written by an author from Charlottesville, VA, back in the ”40’s” I believe Her husband was a professor from the University and they lived in the mews and later built an exquisite house nearby. I have visited the house and had met the present owner. When a local nursery sold some years ago, the owners retired to a house behind the nursery. They have developed new species of hosta for years. I can still go back there to buy and to see the new beauties. From there I was able to purchase one of those wooden boxes which help seeds when they were shipped.just like a previous email.
Enjoy 5, 10, 15 next years. I hope your knees last that long.
Happy 5th blogiversary! I enjoyed the letter and LOVE the garden box. I wonder if Mrs. Peterson could imagine how much her efforts would be appreciated this long after she completed the cards?